How Do I Deal With My Partner Becoming a Groomzilla or Bridezilla?

Because sometimes love gets a little... intense.

Weddings bring out all the feelings—joy, excitement, nostalgia, nerves... and sometimes?
Total emotional chaos.

If your usually-chill fiancé suddenly must have imported peonies flown in from Amsterdam or else, or if your sweet partner is micromanaging the playlist like they're headlining Coachella...
First: take a breath. You're not alone.

Second: let's talk about what’s actually happening—and how to deal with it with love, humour, and a little bit of strategy.

Why Does "Groomzilla" or "Bridezilla" Energy Happen?

It’s rarely about being selfish or dramatic.
It’s about pressure.
- Pressure to have the “perfect” day.
- Pressure to live up to expectations (theirs, family’s, social media’s).
- Pressure because this feels big—and they just want it to be right.

And sometimes?
Stress finds a weird outlet—like obsessing over chair colours or cake frosting thickness.

How to Handle It Without Losing Your Mind (or Your Love Story)

1. Separate the person from the pressure.

Your partner isn't suddenly a control freak—they're overwhelmed.
Start with compassion. (Even if you secretly want to hide the seating chart.)

2. Find the real issue hiding underneath.

Is it really about the napkin folds?
Or is it about fear that the day won’t live up to the dream?
Ask open, gentle questions like:
💬 "What’s worrying you most right now?"
💬 "Is there something we can let go of to make this feel easier?"

3. Re-centre on the "why."

The goal isn’t a perfect party—it’s a beautiful marriage.
Take a night off planning. Go for dinner. No spreadsheets allowed.
Remember: the wedding is a chapter, not the whole story.

4. Divide and conquer (with love).

If your partner is spiralling over the flower arch...

Delegate it to your stylist (hi, MFPC Weddings!)
Remind them that you have experts whose job it is to sweat the small stuff.
Not every decision needs both signatures.

5. Laugh when you can.

Because honestly?
One day you’ll want to remember the great Candle Holder Crisis of 2025.
(And you’ll laugh about it together over espresso martinis.)

MFPC Tip: Build a Dream Team You Trust

Part of calming wedding stress is trusting your vendors.
When you have a planner, a stylist, and a vendor team who "get it" (and get you), the weight doesn’t all fall on your shoulders—or theirs.

At MFPC Weddings, we’re here to be the calm, the style, and the "we’ve got this" energy behind the scenes—so you and your partner can be the ones living in the magic, not managing it.

Final Thought:

If your partner is acting like a Groomzilla or Bridezilla, it doesn’t mean something’s wrong.
It means something matters deeply.

Handle it with kindness.
Handle it with humour.
And if you need backup?
We’re right here.

The best weddings aren’t perfect—they’re full of heart.