I’m Struggling to Write My Vows…

Because putting forever into words isn’t always easy.

There’s this pressure when it comes to wedding vows, right?
You want them to be poetic, meaningful, memorable—not too cheesy, not too long, not too boring.

And suddenly you’re staring at a blank screen, wondering if you should just start with,
"Roses are red, violets are blue..."

If you’re stuck: you’re not alone.
And the good news?
Your vows don’t need to be perfect.
They just need to be true.

Let’s walk through it together.

First: Take the Pressure Off

You’re not writing a novel.
You’re not submitting a speech for a TED Talk.

You’re simply speaking from the heart—to the person who already knows you better than anyone.
That’s it. That’s the assignment.

How to Start Writing Your Vows

1. Forget about structure (for now).

Start with messy notes.

• What do you love most about them?

• When did you know they were "it"?

• What are the little moments you can't wait to live with them?

Get it all out. No pressure. No editing.

2. Tell a tiny story.

One small, specific memory > 100 generic lines.
Talk about that time they made you laugh when you wanted to cry.
The Sunday mornings that became your religion.
The look they gave you across the room that felt like coming home.

Small stories = big emotions.

3. Make promises that matter.

Vows are about the future, not just the past.
Think beyond "I'll love you forever" to things like:

• "I promise to keep making you coffee even when I don’t want to get out of bed."

• "I promise to always dance with you in the kitchen."

• "I promise to choose you, even on the hard days."

Personal > Perfect.

4. Keep it short, sweet, and you.

A beautiful set of vows can be under two minutes.
Focus on heart, not length.
If you're funny together, let it be funny.
If you're sentimental, let it be soft.

Write how you talk—your vows should sound like you.

MFPC Tip: Practice (but Don't Over-Practice)

Read your vows out loud a few times so you feel confident.
Print them out neatly (or handwrite them if you want something personal).
But don’t over-rehearse them into something stiff.

You want to feel them when you say them—not perform them.

Final Thought:

Writing your vows isn’t about getting every word right.
It’s about standing in front of your person, with your whole messy, magical heart, and saying:
"I choose you."

That's all they need.
That's everything.